What’s going on right now.

Sometimes I just want to write down what’s happening in our lives.  I want to be able to look back when I’m 102 and feel that pang for things that were.  I fear that if I don’t get them down on paper (or the internet) I won’t remember the day to day things that are so important to recall.

Here, in no particular order, are some random things that I have been pondering lately.


I envy the mommy bloggers.  They are memorializing all the little day to day things that I know are forgotten from when my kids were small.  Some things stick out in my mind, but so many others are just….gone.

I know that part of the reason that I’m feeling this angst is because Denton and I are literally living out this last season with children at home.  Hayden is at our local community college and Liv is finishing up her last couple of years of high school right now.  I can feel that thread with them stretching thinner and thinner.  And if I let myself think about too much, it’s a physical pain.  To know that we are going to have to allow it to break, so that they can go out and make their lives the way they are supposed to do.  My God how brave our parents were/are.  I don’t know how they stood it.  I was twenty two when I got married.  I had never lived away from home.  I honestly do not know how they stood back and let me take that flying leap.


In other, less depressing news, Denton and I are making more of an effort with date days.  Apparently we are old (according to Liv) and date nights are not our thing.  Date days though, that a thing for us right now.  Denton laughingly told me that his and my versions of dates are profoundly different though.  The last two weeks we have spent them either at Lowes picking out things for the house or meeting strange people from Craigslist and buying other things we I want.  I can’t wait to show you what I got for my birthday.  Here’s a hint:


Other thoughts that have crossed my mind lately are: how do you live out love?  Example:  At Christmas with my family, which was at Thanksgiving, hahahaha, I sewed buttons onto one of my brother’s shirts for him.  He had just casually mentioned one day while we were there that he had a brand new shirt that he couldn’t wear because one of the buttons had popped off.  I told him to bring it up to our Mama’s the next day and I would sew it back on for him.

One of the kids said, “Can’t you sew it on yourself?!?”.  That let to an interesting conversation.  Why yes, my brother can sew it on himself because I used to make him sew blankets for my barbies when we were little.   LOL.  I didn’t remember that!  The point though, to me, was this.  He is a grown man, perfectly capable of sewing his own button back on his shirt.  BUT, while we were home, sitting around with one another and having great conversations and time together, this was something tangible that I could do for him to show him how much he means to me.


Have you heard about people’s word of the year?  I had never heard of this phenomenon until Crystal at the Money Saving Mom mentioned what hers was a few years ago.  It still didn’t really mean anything to me.  This year she chose SLOW as her word.  That’s when it finally clicked in my brain why she was choosing these words each year.

Once our kids got to be about thirteen or so, that’s when we slowed things down at our house greatly.  We deliberately chose not to…. – I don’t want to use the word force here, but it sort of fits – …..encourage them to join everything.  By this time, all of us felt like they knew what they liked and didn’t like.  Both of them knew they didn’t want to invest the time and energy and money into soccer.  So we took that off our schedules and wallets.  When they were little we wanted to expose them to so many things that they could possibly be interested in, but once they got so old, they had definite opinions about what they liked and disliked.

I have to say it felt so good to slow down.  Hayden honed in on his music, piano particularly and Liv has her art.  They have both grown into their love for each of their things in ways I don’t think they would have if they had continued to do MANY things.

So I get it now!!  I don’t have any idea what I would choose as a word for my year.  But, I’m still liking SLOW.






What’s going on?

What’s going on in your world?  I sat down to try to remember what’s been happening in our world, otherwise it will all just fritter away into the ether.  Here’s what I actually remembered!

Liva has decided to cut off almost ALL of her hair.  For a girl who kept her hair to her waist for most of her life, it was a painful thought to this Mama.  But, she’s had it cut off to her chin for the past couple of years, so it wasn’t unexpected.  She just keeps going shorter and shorter.

I’ll try to get a picture to show you I mean ALL of her hair, at least in the back.

On our way to get Liv’s hair cut off, we saw a very disturbing sight.    As we were hurtling down the interstate at 80 miles an hour there was a Penske moving truck up ahead of us.  We could see something hanging out of the drivers window.  The closer we got, yep, we confirmed it.  It was a human leg.  With a sock on the foot.  Just dangling out the window on the driver’s side of the truck.  When we drew up beside the guy, he glanced over, startled.  He gave us a look like – what are you looking at!  Go on!  As he texted.  Good grief, people are insane.  You do not drive a loaded down moving truck on the interstate at 75 miles an hour with your LEG hanging out your window.  Especially if you are the driver of said truck, while TEXTING.  I wanted to take a photo, but Denton wouldn’t slow down.  He was probably afraid we’d all be killed by the lunatic driving the Penske truck.

I came out of the store the other day and there was a Grandma, a Mama and a little boy who couldn’t have been more than two.  He was so little he needed to hold his Mama’s hands to steady himself to walk.  I overheard him say, “Look, that car is a Pontiac.”  His mama said, yes, it is.  He said “That ones a Chevy”.  Yes, yes it is.  Then she asked him what the car beside it was.  He thought for a moment and said, “I don’t know that one.  What is it?”  His mama said, that one is a Ford, and he shook his head and said “Ohhhhh.”  Hahaha!  I guess that family doesn’t like Fords.

We replaced the gutters this summer.  Yippee. Not that we have needed them.  It has been a long, long summer with very little rain.  On a high note, I’m sure the neighbors appreciated it though.
And when I say WE, I mean the company Denton hired to do it.
It literally, LITERALLY, took them an hour and a half to remove the old gutters, and to make the new gutters and then install them.  One of the reasons that we hired this job out is because the front of our house is about thirty feet off the ground.  I talked to my Daddy about DIYing it when they were here a few months ago.  He hesitated then told me the first thing we’d need would be a thirty foot ladder.  I looked them up and they start around $400.00.  Uhmm, we have a 22 foot ladder in the garage that we use maybe once every 3 years.  I’m not shelling out another $400.00+ for another ladder that we would then have to store……
You have to pick your battles and this wasn’t one that I wanted to have with Denton.  Just like with the Jeep, sometimes your sanity is worth a little bit of money. 😉

I gathered more stuff to haul away this week.  I’ll get a post together and show you what didn’t make the cut to live at our house anymore.  You can see everything that didn’t make it so far this year, here.

Budgets.  Why did it take me two years to figure out what I’m doing with Mint?  I love this free app, by the way.  Now that I’ve figured out what the heck I’m doing with it, our budget has finally been conquered!  At least for the moment.
I knew that I had to do something.  Our eating out and grocery bill was out of control.  So I spent about ten hours wrestling this thing to the ground.  It was so worth it people!  I’ll write a proper post about and tell you all the things.

We I finished the giant hallway, yay!
Sorry for the crappy cell phone photo.  All of the tools are still in the hallway and none of the trim is back up in the photo, but I couldn’t resist.  This hallway just about defeated me.  I am so very thankful to be done with it!
You know that feeling you get when you are so tired and worn out, when your body just wants to shake and all you can do is cry?  Please say you know what I’m talking about.  Well, this flooring has brought me to that point several times.  This time wasn’t one of them though.  All that kept going through my head when I finished this was that old hymn.  Revive Us Again.

We praise Thee, oh, God
For the Son of Thy love
For Jesus who died
And is in now gone above

Hallelujah, Thine the glory
Hallelujah, amen
Hallelujah, Thine the glory
Revive us again

We praise Thee, oh, God
For Thy spirit of light
Who hath shown us our Savior
On a banished dark night

Hallelujah, Thine the glory
Hallelujah, amen
Hallelujah, Thine the glory
Revive us again

Revive us, revive us
Revive us again

All glory and honor
To the Lamb that was slain
Who has taken my sin
Lord, and cleansed every stain

Hallelujah, Thine the glory
Hallelujah, amen
Hallelujah, Thine the glory
Revive us again

I have no idea why this song was stuck in my head, but I just went with it.  I was all alone, I was so, so happy to have finally gotten this hallway done and I’m singing this song.  It was great!  I love, love, love the old hymns I grew up with.

If that’s too old school for you, here is one my brother introduced me too.  I love, love, love this song.  I keep it on repeat a lot.  Thanks Adam!  I would never have found the Digital Age without you.  I love you!

I’ll leave you with this song.  Let me know what you think of it.  What’s been happening in your world this week?








And then I found the swarm of bees in my car…

How has your week been going?  My parents and my brother came to visit me this past last weekend, Yay!, and it was amazing.  They haven’t all been here together with us for at least six or seven years.  Denton and the kids and I go home, but having them here was special and sweet.  I loved it.

We played in the creek and blew bubbles, drew with chalk on the sidewalk in the rain, played Uno and five card draw poker.  I loved every minute of it.

Everyone went home late last Sunday afternoon and we were back to our normal.  Which is good in it’s own way, but still bittersweet.

The previous week, we had my niece and nephew the whole week.  One of our traditions is to go to the movies or have a movie marathon.  This time it was Planet of the Apes.  We watched the second movie in this trilogy (everyone had already seen the first) and then the next night ($5.00 night!) we went to the theater and saw the new one – War for the Planet of the Apes.

On the way home, we had a flat.  Ten thirty at night on the interstate, not fun.  Then we discovered that new cars DO NOT come with spare tires anymore.  Seriously.  My Daddy taught me to change a tire when I was 15 years old.  You didn’t drive a car until you could do this.  New cars apparently come with this handy dandy compression kit to make it easier.  Well, not if you have a gash that you can push your thumb into, it doesn’t.

So, we had a friend tow the car home and Denton ordered a new tire FROM AMAZON!  It arrived in two days.  Don’t you love Amazon!  Taking off the tire, finding a place to mount and balance a low profile tile – after four tries, the trials and tribulations of living in a tiny town – putting the tire back on has taken a culmination of 6 days.

After all of that, I started driving my trusty Jeep again.  First, we replaced the battery, since it had sat since March and not been driven. Bad mistake.  Second, I took it to get an inspection sticker since this one had been out for over six months.  Gah!  Then, later that day I opened the passenger door to put my purse in the Jeep and heard a tearing sound.  My brain heard this sound and I thought, Wow that sounded bad, what could that possibly have been.  At the same instant, wasps started boiling out of the car door.  Isn’t it funny how your mind can hear, and think and realize things in fractions of a second?

Technically, it wasn’t bee’s swarming out of my car, but wasps.  Red wasps.  And they were not happy that I had just ripped their home in two.  I slammed the door shut and that effectively sealed them in.  Next, I stood their contemplating what I should do.  I very carefully opened my driver door and stood back.  Nothing.  I got in the Jeep and started it up.  Nothing.  They seemed content to stay in their door home as long as I wasn’t opening and closing it.  So, I very cautiously drove a half mile to one of my thrift store haunts.  Still nothing.  I went inside and did some thrift store shopping to soothe my nerves and came back out 1/2 hour later.  Still nothing.

After all of this, I decided that I could make it home where I would make Denton deal with the stupid things.  You know, since I had nothing to kill them with, like the sun, or a giant ray gun.  I drove very tentatively across town and started up the mountain.  I was terrified to turn on the A/C because it hadn’t been on since before spring and I had no idea what could possibly come flying out of that at me and I didn’t want to roll down the front windows because I didn’t know if that would affect the peace inside the door frame.  I compromised and cracked the back windows a little bit.  I was almost home when something flew across the car and bumped into my arm and I literally almost had a coronary.  It was a fly.  Good grief.

Finally safely home, Denton eradicated the horrible swarming things who were not happy to be evicted.  I wanted to take a photo of the nest, which was about the size of a cantaloupe, but I wasn’t taking any chances with my life after all of this.  So you will just have to imagine.  Or google wasp nest photos.  Yuck.

What’s been happening in your world?

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It’s been a LOOONG week after vacation!

Boy, getting back to real life after nine days of vacation seriously sucks, doesn’t it.  Appointments, errands, the food – oh the food from New York – and just daily life in general is a shock after having so much excitement and leisure time off.

But we are alive and enjoying it!  Here’s what happened in my life so far this week.

Don’t you love the Kroger fuel points for discounted gas?  I shop at Kroger because I love their sales, and Friday freebies!  And they turn around and reward me for it by giving me a discount on my gas.  Woo-hoo!  This started out at $1.93 a gallon and with my $0.50 off I paid $1.43 a gallon.  Win, win.

Oh New York pizza, how we miss you.  Everyone at our house was so, so disappointed to not have access to 937 choices of New York pizza.  Denton refused to even eat it, and he had Popeye’s chicken and mashed potatoes instead.  Insert sad horn sounds from The Price is Right.

On a more upbeat note, Liv and I saw this on Friday.  I love people who use ingenuity to get things done!

I also took Liv to one of my haunts, a Goodwill Outlet Store.  Keep in mind when Hayden goes with me on my thrifty foray’s, he refuses to go into this store.  Liv had the same reaction, but for a different reason.  Hayden doesn’t like the tight space with the frantic, end of the world feeling that the shoppers give him.  Liv almost had a meltdown over the state of the book section.

In this outlet they put EVERYTHING in giant bins.  These are the things that have been for sale at local Goodwill’s and didn’t sell.  Some of the patrons – and I use that word very, very loosely – are less than respectful to the merchandise or other shoppers to say the least.  Every single time I’ve been in this store, I see throwers.  You know who I’m talking about.  They are shoving, pushing, and literally throwing everything in their path.  Sometimes people included.

Liv just couldn’t take it.  She asked to leave immediately.  It just hurt her to see books treated so callously.  She loves going to thrift stores with me, but she said after we left there, please Mom, don’t ever make me go in that store again.  A promise easily kept.

Earlier this week I needed to run into our local Wal-mart.  What should have taken me 10 minutes tops, turned into almost two hours.  Our Wal-mart has one entrance.  Across railroad tracks.  At a red-light.

I quickly ran in and grabbed the stuff I needed, hoping to beat the rain.  That was a big failure.  I had no more than grabbed my last item when I heard the deluge start.  I checked out and slogged my way to my car, when I heard an enormous boom and a flash of lightning.  This is normal during a severe thunderstorm, so I proceeded to leave the shopping center.

I got in line, and noticed the traffic backing up around me.  A tree had fallen straight across the two lane road right behind the stop-light.  Stopping all traffic completely.  Keep in mind that there are three restaurants, a liquor store, and four other shops not including the Wal-mart in this spot.

Who planned this out?  One way in and one way out?  This is insanity.  It took them an additional hour and twenty minutes to get a crew down there to chop up the tree and load it into a dump truck before we could all get out.  Crazy town!  I called Denton at one point and said he should bring his own chainsaw down and take care of it.  I felt sure that things would have happened way faster that way!

Lastly, Liv and I met with the Oral Surgeon who is going to remove her wisdom teeth.  Because, after putting $6,000.00 into her teeth we definitely don’t want them being shifted around by teeth she doesn’t actually need.

He decided to just do the lower teeth for now and monitor the upper teeth because they haven’t descended enough to make him happy.  They are also resting on the roots of her back molars right now.  Liv was fine with it.

Also because of her food allergies, he said he didn’t want to turn her into a test case, so he isn’t going to put her to sleep.  The IV medication they use for that is soy based, and even though she isn’t allergic to soy anymore, he wants to be absolutely certain she won’t have a reaction, so he’s going to use Nitrous Oxcide and numb her locally.  She was perfectly content with this choice.  She is the child who had to have a baby tooth pulled, which shattered and subsequently sat through 2 1/2 hours of teeth shard removal at the dentist a few years ago.  She is a trooper.

That’s what happened with us this week.  What’s happening in your world?

And then I hit my thumb with a hammer.

Last weekend we finally got to go home to visit with my family.  We had been trying to make that happen since January.  Winter, you can never plan around it.  Well you can, but plan to have your plans derailed.  It was so good to see everyone.

When we came home on Sunday it absolutely poured the rain almost the entire way home.  We saw two truly horrific traffic accidents.  The first one, there were three ambulances, two firetrucks and five state troopers.  No one was in a hurry to remove people from the scene, so I took that as a very bad sign for the people involved.

The second was literally two or three minutes later and I was still looking back at the first accident when I hear Denton say “Oh my God”.  I turn around and he said another car on the other side of the interstate was spinning out of control down the highway.  He hit the median and immediately bounced back into traffic and hit the ditch on the other side.  But, we finally made it home safe and sound.

On Monday, Denton tells me that he needs to go right back to where we literally, I mean literally just came from for a meeting with work.  The plan was that I was going to go with him, so to prepare, I did four days worth of work in my office in two, but I ended up not going.  So I stayed home and Hayden and I worked on the floors some more.  More on that later.

While we were at home, one of my nephews told me that he needed a hood and hood light for one of his fish tanks.  I asked him what size it was and he told me.  I walked into my salvation army on Tuesday and found one IN THE BOX for $3.00.  It still had the original price tag on it for almost $30.00.  I love it when that happens, don’t you?  I sent it to my nephew with Denton.  He was very happy.  I told my brother that I can find just about anything we need at a yard sale or thrift shop and he said “I believe it”.  But, I also told him that I need to know that they need something before I can find it.  Otherwise I would never have bought the fish tank hood.  😉

Hayden and I took out another long hallway’s carpet, the pad and the tack strips.  I told Denton at the end of the day that I felt like we had worked like slaves.  But then I backtracked and said no, that’s not true.  I am compulsively always trying to be honest with myself, and I had to admit that I would make a terrible slave.  Actually, they would probably just do away with me because I need to stop and take a break about every 45 minutes.  Turning 44 this year has made me feel every single year of it.  Seriously, I would love to have the brute strength of my husband sometimes so badly I can almost taste it!

This hallway leads to all of the bedrooms in our house.  It’s about 4 feet wide and 25? feet long.  Just removing the trim, carpet, carpet pad and tack strips took almost 6 hours.  The people who finished out my house were complete lunatics.  Have I mentioned this before?  Each piece of trim has at least 14 (14!!!) 2 1/2 inch nails in it.  For crying out loud people, this house isn’t going to get up and walk around.  Talk about major overkill.  In the midst of removing the 6,942 nails from all of the trim so that I can paint it later, I glanced the hammer off of one of the nails and whacked my thumb with it.  Oh my, the pain.  I haven’t had a pain like that in I don’t know how long.  It was unending.  It truly felt like someone had the nerve in the thumb held down, and every time my heart beat that sadist would hit it with the hammer again.

Then I made the mistake of sticking my thumb in my mouth.  Let me tell you, that was a big mistake.  The heat from my mouth intensified the pain another thousand degrees.  That lasted about twenty minutes.  Now it just aches if I touch something.  Do you know how often you touch something with the end of your thumb?  A lot.  All day long as a matter of fact.

That’s what’s been happening in my life so far this week.  What’s going on in your world?